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3 Lessons 3 Years on Tinder Have Taught Me
Tinder is just a door. And there is a person at the other side
It all started around January 2018. I had a very stable group of long-time friends. We were 9 men in their mid-20s who used to go out on weekends to dine or have a drink and talk about life, work… and women.
We would always go to the same clubs and bars to see the same people and talk about the same things, over and over again. The same people doing the usual.
Many days we would talk about traveling or hang out at different places to meet new people, especially women. We remembered our golden days when there were more women than men in our group. The conversations were more interesting back then and the flow more dynamic.
But then we would come back to reality to realize our life was exactly the same as any other day. In the end, we had been a closed-minded group for a while that had stagnated.
I remember one particular day we were talking about dating. One of my friends, not exactly an expert on relationships or women, told us he was using Tinder to meet girls. I decided if he could do it, I could too. I didn’t know anything about online dating back then, but I wanted to give it a try, so I downloaded the app that same night and started chatting with girls.
