Follow These 2 Simple Steps to Build Healthier Relationships

When expressing your feelings isn’t enough you gotta defend them

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Building a strong, healthy relationship is one of the most challenging human endeavors. We all do it wrong in one way or another. Relationships are too complex to nail. It doesn’t matter if we are talking about family, friends, or partners.

I like to define a relationship as a newborn entity that emerges from the shared space between two existing entities that have consciousness, defined identities, and specific wants and needs.

The entity-relationship has its own identity and its own needs.

Here’s an analogy: Think of when you want to eat one more slice of pizza but something inside you tells you you shouldn’t. Two parts are fighting inside you. Those parts are what make you; two “entities” with a specific want (that you eat or not the pizza).

You are the shared space between both. Eventually, one of the two parts takes control and you either eat or not the pizza.

The same happens in relationships, with a nuance: In a relationship, both parts have consciousness and are not tied to a single body. That makes relationships inherently more unstable. If there is a conflict nothing stops both parts from splitting…